The Law of Attraction does not explain the sucker punch. This is when your energy is riding high from an experience that exceeded your expectations. You are almost euphoric and you get a wakeup call sucker punch that brings you back down.
Last week I was riding on a high when someone called me up about a job as a Program Manager, basically a job where I’d be managing other managers. I definitely thought this was a bit too much of a stretch for me, so I was surprised to get a phone call from someone interested in me. They described all the stresses and high expectations from this position and somehow I spoke up and sold myself well enough that the person thought that although this was a stretch for me, my enthusiasm and sales pitch indicate I could pull it off.
A few days later I attended a LOA (Law of Attraction) seminar with lots of emphasis on maintaining positive imagery along with neutral emotions around the outcome. The overall point was to maintain a net positive “vibration” so as to attract positive outcomes. Well I was riding on an all time high: very positive and not fearing outcomes, because I fully expected positive outcomes.
So today I had the official interview fully expecting good outcomes. I was taken off guard when I was met with less than enthusiastic emotions. In fact I got back lots of skepticism. And so I was asked to sell myself again, and as I spoke about my proudest moments, I got back silence. They were not impressed. In fact all my proudest moments and best accomplishments seemed to turn into negative points because they all seemed to typecast me as a computer programmer and not a manager. And so the more they asked me to sell myself, I started to fumble and trip up more. I felt sort of humiliated. But one saving grace is that they had to cut my interview short due to another work emergency, and so they rescheduled me for a 2nd interview to try again.
So according to LOA
At this time I also tried to call someone else about another job that I did spectacular well in the interviewing process. I was so sure I would have an offer by today, but every time I called for the status I got only the voice mail and no return phone calls. It’s like they were intentionally avoiding me.
According to LOA principles I was vibrating positivity big time, and then I had an outcome I was not prepared at all. I was sucker punched. It’s the lack of encompassing the truth and purpose of negative energy where the LOA fails. In fact the LOA focus on positive energy I believe probably will only yield satisfactory effectiveness in your life about 50% of the time. LOA also completely does not address self Love, which by the way involves an acceptance of negativity as well as positivity.
I had to heal myself. So I found a quiet sanctuary and I dug down deep to feel my saddest emotions of frustration and fear. I wanted to see if I could pull out that crying child from within and what came forward was this image of me hugging myself as I was lying down on the floor with my anguished face buried in a pillow. And I was saying to myself “you are so beautiful in your vulnerability! I saw how you were struggling, desparate and trying so hard to be honest, to honor your fears, to hold it together somewhat. So loveable and endearing you are. I have never seen someone try so hard. I love you so much Wilson”
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